Brothers! =)
Michael and his beautiful family!!!
I Just had to add this and show you all how INCREDIBLY AMAZING my man looks when he's all dressed up! This pix was taken today. Whew... I can't believe he's gonna be mine!!! ;)Thanks Phillip (Michael's dad) for sending me this!!!
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This is absolute madness! What are you thinking about? He may in fact be the right man for you but you could also be heading down a very ominous path. Take your time and get to know each other. I married the Minister's son when I was 19 under similar circumstances. We did not date in the traditional sense and certainly did not have premarital relations of any kind. My parents and family thought he was wonderful; little did they know that I was in for years of emotional and physical abuse. This makes me very sad.
Michael and I dove into deep, intense, discussion from day one. We have talked about, what feels like, everything under the sun!!! =) I have watched Michael with his parents, younger siblings, extended family and friends. I have listened to all the things they have to say about him too. Like me, he has been home schooled his whole life and also is closer to his family than anyone. They know him better then anyone except for God. They are honest about who he is, and who he has been has been his whole life. Michael has also been wide open about his faults and failures.
We are close. We talk every day for hours. I and my parents and other family believe that there is only so much you need to know about someone. Then after that it takes strong commitment and God as the center for it to last. We are all convinced, beyond a shadow of doubt, that Michael has spent his life striving to put Christ and living for him first in every aspect of his life and continues to do so. I am the same way. We share all the same vision for how we want to live for Christ. Our values and vision for family, and countless other things, all match up. We are both ready to join lives and begin a life of following Christ together. I know all I need to know and so does my family for us to get married.
None of us think that it is necessary to draw it out longer. We don't see a point to it. We are sure this is what God has and we are ready. The only thing time will do is put more temptation on us physically. We cannot think of one reason to purposely do that to ourselves. We are ready and willing to commit to each other for life.
However, I am not saying there is no risk involved. I don't care how perfect people walk out the process of getting to know one another before marriage, or how long or how short or any other details. There will always be risk in committing your life to another imperfect person who has as many faults as you have. I have weighed the risks and thought about and talked about every side of the issue with family, and other concerned friends. With blessing from my closest advisers and friends, (my family and extended) and blessing from his family and extended, and countless hours of thought and prayer, I have made my choice.
We go into this knowing that we cannot do it ourselves. Our God is big enough to carry us through whatever comes our way and we will strive together to make him first in our lives.
Love in Christ, Candace
P.S. We have started pre-marital counseling with my pastor too.
I wish you the best Candace! That was a very well thought-out, detailed response (and not even deserved)! This is just so unconventional and scary! Please be kind enough to keep everyone up to date on your progess!!
Bravo! Well written, girl!
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